What Your Inner Child Desperately Wants You to Know
This is Part 2 of a 3-part article series dedicated to strengthening the relationship with the Inner Child (IC). In Part 1, we explored the predicament of not bonding to the IC – which delays ascension. In Part 2, we will take an intimate look at all facets of who the IC is. With this deeper understanding of him/her I hope that you will better recognize the IC in your life and reap his/her rewards.
In modern culture, the concept of the IC first appeared from psychologists Eric Berne and Carl Jung in the mid 1900’s. Decades later, the concept developed into the widely accepted model seen today in popular psychology and self-help healing: When childhood needs are unmet, we grow into adults with unresolved emotional pain and dysfunctional behavior patterns. To heal the pain and reduce/eliminate dysfunctional behavior, the IC must lead us into the past to face painful memories and feelings that can now be integrated and resolved by the adult self. Sufficient care of our selves maintains this healing and brings lasting health and happiness into our lives.
The multidimensional perspective of the IC, given to us by the 9D Nibiruans, supports this model while emphasizing a partnership with the IC . He/she has a voice in daily decisions and life changes. The purpose of this article is to prepare you for this partnership by examining all facets of the IC. It is divided into 3 sections: The IC’s form; the IC’s purpose; and how to care for the IC.
The Inner Child’s Form
The IC is a significant part of who we are. I’ve split him/her into 3 aspects: the body; the ego; and in our Beingness with the world. These aspects are interrelated just as the line is thin between body, mind and spirit.
The IC communicates to us thru the body via our feeling and body functions. His/her vulnerability makes it necessary to identity as the body, for protection. The New Age philosophical idea that “we are separate from our bodies,” does not apply here. From the highest perspective, that idea may be true, but not to the IC on Earth. Here are 3 examples of how the IC communicates thru the body:
- Sensations: Cravings, moods, gut instincts, etc., are ways the IC says to us, “Pay attention to me,” or “I need …”
- Dis-ease: Any form of ill health is the IC’s last ditch attempt to get our attention because we’ve ignored the body’s sensations (as I listed above). Furthermore, the dis-ease is associated with the message the IC is trying to give us. For example, Louise Hay’s (known for teaching the mental equivalents of illness) says in her book, Heal your body A-Z, “Anger turns into things that boil and burn and infect the body.”
- Emotion: Certain situations or events trigger the IC’s emotions. When pleasurable (love based) emotions are triggered, the body releases “happy hormones” (serotonin, noradrenalin, and dopamine). When painful (fear based) emotions are triggered, the body releases “stress hormones” (adrenaline and cortisol). Later I’ll discuss the importance of hormones. NOTE: Sometimes we will think that we’re not triggered by a situation or event, when in reality our IC is triggered – which is why many dis-eases occur because we are minimizing or misinterpreting our inner thoughts and feelings. This keeps the thought form trapped in the body releasing its energy thru dis-ease.
The non-physical aspects of the IC are on 2 sides, the Ego (dark) and Beingness (light). Picture the yin and yang symbol. Both play different roles and both are necessary. We’ll look at the Ego first. Some skeptics want to destroy or suppress the ego. Yes, it can cause suffering, but the ego is necessary to the young child as he realizes that his parents or caretakers cannot fulfill all his needs. The ego steps in to fill those gaps. The more we are deprived of needs (as children), the more the ego will manifest in our lives. Until of course we find healing thru IC work. Here is how I understand the ego to be:
- Deals in reason
- Emotional control
- Fears rejection and death
- Approval and status seeker
- Identifies itself as the adult
- Seeks separateness and identity
- Remembers how we died in past lives
- Overrides the needs of the body with denial, dissociation, and suppression
- Balances it’s weaknesses with modified (sometimes dysfunctional) behaviour
Every item on this list has a value in life, as all things in the Universe ultimately do. In part 1 of this article series, I listed the consequences of not bonding to our IC; that list represents the Ego creating pain in our lives because it is not tempered with the light aspect of the IC (because of course the bond with the IC is weak). With that said, let’s explore the lighter and blissful side.
This is the part of the IC that most people understand him/her to be. It is the blissful, playful, childlike aspect that is usually buried under our grown-up personas. The famous IC therapist, John Bradshaw, calls this aspect “the Wonder Child.” I call this aspect Beingness because it represents the pure and unlimited expression of our selves that comes from the heart. Here are some of its attributes:
- Emotional freedom
- Heart connected to Earth
- Spirit – Knowing that we are perfect beautiful creatures and a desire to celebrate that knowing.
- Self Realization – We desire to expand our horizons thru enthusiastic curiosity and to seek challenges to test our potential and realize our strengths. To know our uniqueness and celebrate it.
- Unity – We love ourselves and others and want to make a difference in the world and add to the common good. Knowing that we are all connected and interdependent.
- Childish aspect – play, silliness, laughter, adventure, fantasy, living in the moment, abandonment of responsibility, naiveté, etc.
- Optimism – We want to believe the world is safe. I’m okay, you’re okay.
The 3 aspects of the IC sometimes clash so it feels like we have 3 IC’s going in different directions. For example: the ego will drain the bodies energy to work overtime for approval; the body will get sick if it wants the ego to rest; the light aspect (Beingness) will goof off or procrastinate when the body cries out for exercise. It seems crazy sometimes, but this must be how we discover balance and learn priorities.
The Purpose of an Inner Child
When our souls came to Earth to fulfill its goal, it needed a physical body since it can’t do much floating around in the etheric planes. The body provides a medium by which the soul can fulfill what it needs. Encoded in the body’s DNA is a governing system (the IC) that manages its survival function. That is the purpose of our IC. It instinctually knows how to survive better than the adult self and the soul.
Here are the elements needed to keep us alive:
The 3 forms of the IC exist to fulfill the above elements.
Take a look:
- The body’s sensations provide cues to what the body needs for sustenance and to keep it operational. Diseases are a warning system. Painful/fear based emotions, coupled with the release of “stress hormones”, provide energy to fight or flight when faced with a threat. And pleasurable/love based emotions, coupled with the release of “happy hormones”, help us to approach what we need for survival like love and motivation.
- The ego embodies the fear element to ensure that we are loved, accepted by others, and protected.
- And our Beingness seeks hope when times are tough – giving us the will and desire to persevere on such a dense and painful planet.
The soul wants to take risks and learn hard lessons which are physically and emotionally risky. But it can’t force its way past the IC without permission. The IC is the boss, particularly the Ego in this case. We (the adult self) mediate between the IC/ego and the soul so that the IC/ego can feel safe and the soul can fulfill its goals. A partnership between the 3 (IC/self/soul) satisfies all parties, and helps to make life fun. Let’s explore the ingredients for a successful partnership with the IC.
How to Care for the Inner Child
The surest way to care for the IC is to support him/her in keeping us alive. Let’s look at the basic elements again: Love/Nurturance, Sustenance, Protection, and Will/Hope/Desire. The first element of Love/Nurturance is foremost because when we truly love our IC everything else falls into place. The elements of Sustenance, Protection and Will/Hope/Desire become fulfilled in a domino effect.
In Part 1 of this article series, I discussed how emotional clearing helps us bond to our IC, and in doing so, we love and nurture them. I will add that we additionally love and nurture our IC by listening to what they have to say and allowing them to express freely.
Listen & Allow
We give a strong message to the IC by listening and allowing. We are saying, “You have a right to feel, speak, and express anything you want,” and “You have a right to be who you are.”
When you’re ready to do IC work, access him/her with a modality that feels simple and natural, it could be: meditation; guided visualization; centered breathing; writing with your non-dominant hand; a bubble bath; etc. You can do this routinely or when you feel a need, whatever ales you. With time it will be easier and faster to access him/her.
Once connected, listen to whatever they have to say, it could be:
- to talk about the day,
- to talk about a triggering event that brought up emotion,
- to talk about the past from this life or past lives,
- to emote because he/she can’t articulate in words but feels like crying, cussing, singing, etc.,
- to tell you his/her needs and wants,
- and more …
If we are relaxed enough, the IC will come thru our adult bodies. Our speech and body language will be childish. It’s like putting on a show playing a child, yet it’s the real thing. This childlike acting is a very common practice when you undergo IC therapy with a trained professional.
All children, including IC’s, are highly expressive. Look at children age 5 and under (after 5 the child’s ego usually tempers his energy to avoid reprimands from grown-ups). They yell, scream, kick and punch – whether they are happy or mad. Their art is bright, bold and colorful. Their stories are grandiose and wild. They are blunt with little regard for how their message is received. We all have this same passion waiting to come out. Spend enough time with your IC and see.
Sometimes the IC’s expression is negative. Such as the voices/tapes that run in our head saying things like: I’m ugly and stupid, etc. We say “tapes” but a tape is an inanimate object. This is not inanimate but a charged energy. It’s a belief form stuck in our minds because it has no where to go. The word on the street these days is that we need to push the stop button on the tape and replace the message with positive thinking. I disagree. Instead, we need to turn up the volume until it is shouting, “I’M UGLY AND STUPID!” Speak it out loud to validate the IC’s feelings. What follows is charged emotion. We will want to vent, kick something, cry, or whatever. Allow the hormone byproducts to squeeze out of your tissues with a release. This is the IC’s process – allow him/her to own it and feel it.
An amazing thing occurs after a full emotional release, our level of awareness rises. As the layers of emotional blocks peel away, more light comes crashing in. The messages on the tapes begin to fade as does the influence of a fearful ego.
Listening and allowing is re-parenting our IC. It gives us the opportunity to fulfill needs and wants that were not met in our childhood of this life and other lives. A loved IC knows how to set boundaries, play, reach compassion, and feel safe. Soon the IC is embracing the soul and feels excited about fulfilling its mission.
I hope this article has shown you where the IC is truly coming from, or at least, I hope to have added another stepping stone on your journey. When we understand the IC we can love and provide for them. There is no stopping us after that – the world is our sandbox!
- Multidimensional Perspective: The higher perspective from integrating both light and dark polarities.
- The 9D Nibiruans are the members on the 9th dimensional Greater Nibiruan Council assigned to oversee council of the Earth Grand Experiment for the Galactic Federation of Worlds.
Written 28 May 2007
Make Your Inner Child Your Partner
Laura writes from experience and knowledge of the Keys of Compassion coupled with universal/spiritual laws to assist us in finding our personal power and inner truth.