New Age Money Pitfalls
By Jelaila Starr
Written January 15, 2001
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Following up on my article, Becoming a Prosperous Teacher, in this article we will explore some of the more predominant and general beliefs that are prevalent in the New Age or metaphysical community, impacting the majority of those who walk the spiritual path, not just those who are teachers of the path. I have found from personal experience that these beliefs inhibit my ability to manifest money and from my interactions with my counseling clients, I realize that I am not alone in this…it appears that they affect most of us in one way or another. As I ferret out these hidden beliefs in myself, I will continue to share them with you. Like you, I want to be financially successful in my spiritual work. I want to feel satisfied and happy and I know that any lack I experience is my own creation. Let’s take a look at the latest findings.
When Spirit gives me an assignment I must immediately find a way to fulfill it.
This one can lead to untold amounts of frustration and self-doubt, relationship conflict and wasted dollars. I have intimate experience with this one. Often when I have received a message
from Spirit requesting that I carry out an assignment. And once I received it, I immediately went into action to carry out that assignment. I would stop at nothing, moving heaven and
earth to make it happen. Inevitably I would hit that proverbial wall and then get frustrated and angry wondering why. Sound familiar?
After years of doing this, I have learned what to do and what not to do when I receive an assignment from Spirit. It is a golden rule and goes like this, “When the people, money and
opportunity effortlessly come together at the same time, then it is time to move forward on the assignment.” My guides from Nibiruan Council explained this one to me a long time ago but it has taken me many years and many painful experiences to believe and trust in it. Going further, when it is time, the people, money and opportunity will flow effortlessly into one’s life and we will not have to push to make it happen or go in search of the funding, etc.
How can we know when we are acting out of this belief?
- When we get the message that we are to fulfill a certain assignment for Spirit, we immediately go into action without allowing some of the pieces to come forward first.
- We begin pushing to make things happen instead of letting them come to us, thus creating stress and worry. Devin, one of my guides, has often said to me, “When it stops being fun, you
are not flowing and allowing, you are pushing. Stop pushing, let go and it will happen as if by magic. It will come to you.”
- We begin work on the assignment and notice that the money is not there to fund it. And, even once we see this, we still spend what money we have—the money allocated for food, rent, or
car payments—to fund the project. Then even more blocks occur to stop it.
For example, many of us have been told that we are to build a healing center. If we all sat
together in a circle sharing our experiences after receiving and then acting upon that message, we would probably have a good laugh. Several would probably share how they mortgaged their
homes to get the money, others about how they left their 3D jobs with high hopes to begin work on the center only to return to their jobs a year later because the money did not come. Still
others would tell us how they found the building or land but could not get the loan. Frustrating examples of acting out of this belief. I still feel the pain in my heart as I write
What can we do to change this belief to a more supportive one?
We don’t make a move to begin work on the project until the people, money, and necessary opportunities all come together at one time. Just say to Spirit,
“I hear you Spirit, I am willing to fulfill this assignment and I will patiently wait for you to bring the resources together to start it. Once said, get on with your life and let go of
the whole thing.
After several years of working on projects with the Nibiruan Council and hitting many walls, I have learned that there is a time/space distortion of about 1-2 years.
This means that the majority of the assignments that we receive are not scheduled to begin for one to two years in the future. In addition, each assignment has the necessary people, money and
opportunities planned into it already; therefore you will not have to go and create them. Just sit back and wait for them to come to you. If Spirit bugs you about it, just say to
them, “I hear you and I am waiting on you.”
Having the opportunity to serve Spirit is thanks enough and therefore I don’t need to charge money for my service.
This belief in balance reaps us lots of feel-good feelings about ourselves. What Lightworker doesn’t want to serve Spirit? I don’t think that there are
too many feelings that can match the joy that serving Spirit gives us. But out of balance, this belief can become a real cop out. Since the universe is based on the law of
Giving and Receiving, anyone really wanting to understand the higher realms would have to face the fact that Spirit honors this law; therefore, they would never expect you to serve them and get
nothing in return.
If there’s one thing I have learned in my years of working with people in the business world and New Age industry it is that no one does anything for free. If we
are truly honest with ourselves, we will acknowledge that the only reason we do anything is to get something in return whether it be money, goods, services, a feel good feeling, or a pat on the
back. After all, isn’t that the universal law of giving and receiving? But even if the feel-good feeling of serving Spirit is what we want, Spirit knows that we must be
receiving that feeling in equal proportion to the service we are giving. As long as this occurs, we will continue to offer the service in exchange for the feelings we get from doing it.
But, if it is not in equal proportion, the day will surely come when what we receive will just not be enough. We will know that one of these conditions exists because we will begin avoiding
doing the work or we will be out of money for ourselves.
I had a dream not too long ago that I think describes this belief very well. In the dream I was gathered with a large group of people for Thanksgiving
dinner. We were sitting at long picnic style tables that hold about 20 people each. It felt like a dinner hall or cafeteria. There were two rows of 8 tables each, one on the left
and one on the right with an aisle between them that ran the length of the room. At the end of each table closest to the aisle was a buffet. Each table of diners would fill their plates from the
buffet set up at the end of their table. I was seated at the first table of the right hand row. As I conversed with my fellow diners, I watched as the servers scurried around filling the
buffets with turkey and all the trimmings. We had just finished our appetizers and were waiting for the main course. Time went by and still we were not served. I noticed that all
the tables in the left hand row and the tables behind ours in the right hand row were all served, but we were not.
Eventually I moved to the third table back and had dinner there. As I ate I continued to watch the people at the first table; they were becoming more upset and
agitated because they were not being served. Finally I waved to one of the servers and she came over. I pointed to the first table and said, “Those people at the first row have not been
served, would you please take care of them?” With a look of total surprise she responded, “Yes, of course, I will take care of it right away!” and hurried off. In moments
a line of servers, their arms loaded with buffet trays were gathered around the first table filling the warmers with food. Soon everyone at the first table was happily eating their fill.
I sat down satisfied I had taken care of the situation but in my mind I questioned why they didn’t just call a server themselves? Why did they allow it to go
on so long? Then the dream ended.
To me this dream was about Lightworkers in general, myself included, who were still choosing to give even to their last drop of energy and not receiving in return.
I do not mean to imply that we haven’t received anything in return, after all we did get our appetizers. What I mean is that because of this belief we have not received sufficiently
enough in the area of financial support for us to easily continue our work and complete our missions.
I receive at least one email from one of these disgruntled individuals every day. They are burnt out, angry, frustrated, disappointed, feeling that their guides
have either lied to them or at the very least, let them down. They have maxed out their credit cards, destroyed relationships with their birth families and find themselves alone and
outcast with no idea how to keep going or why they should. They are frightened and asking for help. In each case, I find that their beliefs about money and spiritual service are at the
root of their experiences. In addition, I find that contrary to their belief that their guides have lied to them or forsaken them, their guides have been very active in their behalf.
Their guides have listened, watched and felt the pain of their beloved charges as they move them one baby step at a time through the experiences necessary to enable them to change their existing
beliefs to new ones that are more supportive.
How can we know that we are still acting out of this belief?
We find ourselves volunteering to do several jobs that provide no monetary remuneration or exchange of goods or services. Why do we do this? I believe there are
two reasons: We believe that if we put a price on our service we will be considered greedy or not very spiritual. This goes back to Belief #1 (see Becoming a Prosperous Teacher). And we fear being responsible and accountable for doing our service on a
long-term basis and therefore we can avoid this accountability by not accepting money or an exchange of goods and services. The fear behind this is the fear of failure.
What can we do to change this belief to a more supportive one?
- Before we volunteer, we need to determine why we are doing it? Is it because we just want to or it is out of a sense of guilt that we may be considered selfish if we don’t? Many
times we volunteer to serve Spirit due to underlying feelings of pressure to make ourselves look good or more spiritual. I think you will agree that these are not the most emotionally
healthy reasons. If it is just that feel-good feeling, and it makes your heart sing, then by all means go ahead. Above all, know thy intent!
- Determine what you would like in return. It is my understanding that Spirit always, always honors the universal law of giving and receiving. If that is the case, then wouldn’t
it be appropriate to determine what you would want to receive in return for your service to Spirit? If so, then decide what that would be. It could be better health, a new home, or a
new opportunity of your choice. Regardless of what you decide, once you decide, verbally state that choice to Spirit.
Let me give you an example. If you decide you want a
new car because your old one is about to die say to Spirit, “Spirit, I request in return for my ______service a new 2001 Mustang convertible.” Also be specific. Let Spirit
know what color, the features you want and what price you are willing to pay. From my experience, Spirit is more than willing to compensate you; you only have to ask and if it is on your
Life Blueprint, the doors will open for you to receive it. The only one who can stop you from receiving it is you. One more thing, when determining what you want in the form of
compensation aim high, after all, we have been told that the universe is limitless haven’t we?
Accepting love offerings instead of establishing set prices for services as a way to finance our work.
Whoa! This is a really touchy one. I am sure that I will receive a load of emails disputing my views on this one. Let’s take a look anyway.
When I began this work, leaving my former business behind, I chose to hold monthly gatherings where I would channel members of the Nibiruan Council. I did this to
begin getting the Council’s info out there and also as a way to begin building a clientele for readings since this work was full time and therefore my only means of income.
In keeping with the New Age belief at the time, that I shouldn’t charge for my spiritual services, I set a basket on the counter leading into the family room with
a sign perched beside it saying “Love Offering.” But since I was conflicted over this belief that I felt was somehow imbalanced, I wrote $20 as a suggested amount on the card.
This helped me feel okay about giving the next 3 hours of energy, time and information. It also helped me find a comfortable balance between my former beliefs as a business owner and this new
world of beliefs into which I had just entered.
At the end of the evening I found that the offering had averaged about $20 per person. This made me feel pretty good. I felt that they had valued my service
enough to give $20 each. I also felt that I was on the right track and relieved that this new work would financially support my daughter and I. I had a lot of fears around prosperity and
spirituality—they seemed to go hand in hand. I had heard plenty of sad stories about people in the New Age community who were financially destitute and I was determined that I would not
be one of them. I would find a way to make money and complete my mission and when I did, I would share with those willing to listen.
At the next gathering I, once again, used the love offering concept but this time neglected to write a minimum on the card. The same amount of people was there yet
the average per person was only $12. Immediately I began to question why. Was I not good enough, had I not provided the same level of service as the last time? Did I not satisfy their
needs enough? What was it? In the end I felt that they had not valued me as much and I felt a little resentful and even hurt. The following time I added the minimum and the
average went back up. What I learned from all of this was that if I don’t value my time, no one else will. I leaned that people take their cue as to my value from me. If I
value me and let them know, they will follow suit. If I don’t, they are left to establish my value on their own and people don’t usually feel comfortable with this since it leaves
them vulnerable to criticism from me. I also prefer someone give me a guideline when they request a love offering. If I know how much value they want to place on their service for the
sake of compensation, I can then decide if I want to give it. And when I do, I feel confident that they will not consider me inconsiderate or critical because I may have given less because they
didn’t provide a minimum.
Now let’s go deeper into the love offering concept and see what really lies beneath this concept. In my opinion, placing a minimum is the same as setting a
price for a service. The only difference is that I cloak it in the love offering terminology. But why did I do this? Why didn’t I just say, “Hey, the gathering is
$20.” Why did I feel the need to cloak it in this way? Well, the truth is that I felt that others would think that I am not very spiritual if I charged for my services. I was
buying into that old belief that “If it is spiritual it should be free.” If I truly believed that one must give and receive and that one must decide how one would wish to receive
(which is the whole basis of creative visualization) then that concept holds no merit. It is counter productive to those who give their time and energy in any kind of service, spiritual or
otherwise. I had to admit to myself that I had used the love offering concept because I didn’t have the guts to put out there what I felt my time that night was worth. I used it out
Teachers and Lightworkers in general who are comfortable with the fact that every business needs money to survive will take the time to decide what they wish to receive
in return for their service, those not comfortable, still feeling it is wrong and shameful to ask for money for their services will not. They will just allow anything to come to them in return for
the service. In most cases, they find that what they receive is not what they need, and if they admitted it, what they wanted.
We must begin to really look at how the universe works and what we need to do to gain what we need from this vast repository of unlimited energy. We must take
responsibility for getting what we want. If we want certain things from it, we must be the ones to state what those things are and then use the universal laws in such a way that the universe
will send those things to us. The universe can only give us what we ask for. If we don’t state an amount, it will give us whatever amount we truly believe we deserve and most of the
time that amount is less than we desire. If we really believe that we are entitled to fair compensation we will have no problem stating that to the universe or anyone else for that matter.
I don’t believe that we can continue to abdicate our responsibilities and expect the universe or our clients to read our minds and know what we want and need; we
must put our needs on the table, so to speak.
How can we know that we are still acting out of this belief?
- We refuse to ask for compensation or if we do, it is a love offering. We say that the universe will provide. Remember that in the Bible, God asked for a tenth from all the Israelites
of their money and goods. This was to given to the priests to support them since they served the people in a full time capacity. So they were being compensated for their
services. Don’t you deserve the same?
- We feel angry when someone suggests that we place a value on our services. Keep in mind that underneath all anger is fear.
- We judge those that do place a value on their spiritual services by requesting compensation of a set amount.
What can we do to change this belief to a more supportive one?
- Have a good talk with yourself and determine if you feel that your service is worthy of compensation. Until we believe that we are worthy of compensation, we will not take the steps to ensure that we receive it.
- Make a list of your monthly expenses then ask yourself, “How will I pay these bills each month?” If the answer is, “God will provide” keep in mind that God helps
those who help themselves. Dishonoring the universal law of giving and receiving is not helping yourself. Honoring that law is helping yourself.
- Think about how you feel when you attend a meeting or class where a love offering is requested. Don’t you wonder if you are giving enough and if the facilitator will think you gave
enough? Doesn’t trying to place a value on the facilitator, healer or teacher’s service make you a bit uncomfortable? No one wants to be thought of as cheap, selfish or
stingy, and in my experience having to determine the amount of a love offering brings up all those unpleasant feelings. It is similar to the feelings we get when they “passed the
plate” in church. How much value to you place on...? Do you see what I mean?
In closing, I hope that by taking a moment to exploring these money pitfalls we will be better able to determine where we each have hidden, unconscious beliefs
that are keeping us from enjoying all the good things 3D has to offer. You and I came here on assignment to assist Mother Earth and her people in their ascension. We came to give but also
to receive in return. I don’t feel that there is any reason for us to have to struggle financially. I don’t believe it was planned that way ‘cause if it was, we’ve
all be royally screwed. What I feel has happened is that we have become stuck in the same belief systems from which we came to free earth’s people. And I truly believe that we
can end our sojourn in these lessons as soon as we decide to change our beliefs. In addition, I feel that on a soul level we agreed to create periods of financial struggle in our lives in order
that we may better understand and have compassion for what those we came to free will have to go through to get free of these same beliefs. In other words, we are not victims here and once we
acknowledge that, we can regain our clarity and take the steps to begin enjoying this mission again.
In loving service,
The Nibiruan Council
Additional Reading: 9D Perspective on Money and Ascension; Running out of Money? and The Power to Manifest Money comes from the Dark
Jelaila Starr, author of We are the Nibiruans, The Mission Remembered and the highly acclaimed Keys of Compassion series, is an
internationally known channel, teacher, and counselor. Through her lectures, workshops, and articles, Jelaila's message of compassion has touched the hearts of people around. Jelaila’s work
inspires hope and understanding while providing solutions to some of today’s most pressing challenges.
As a psychic/intuitive counselor, Jelaila works with individuals to assist them with emotional clearing, healing relationships, and DNA Recoding.
Jelaila's unique approach enables her clients to clearly discover who they are, what they came to do, and how to achieve it.