Is Your Inner Child Blocking
By Jelaila Starr
Written November 24, 2002
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Are you suffering from terminal financial lack? Do you feel frustrated that after months or even years of applying positive affirmation, visualization and other proven techniques, you still live
paycheck-to-paycheck, unable to support yourself and your mission? After years working with the Inner Child of each of my clients, I have discovered 3 reasons why the Inner Child may pose as a
challenge to manifesting financial abundance. As in all my writings, these concepts are based on the multidimensional Inner Child information given to me by my guides, the 9D Nibiruan
Council. Further, as with all writings of this nature, please apply discernment using only what resonates for you, leaving the rest.
We are not heart-connected to Earth
Now this one is a bit complex so I’ll try to simplify it as much as possible. Keep in mind that we are speaking in multidimensional terms, which mean that the principles are of a higher consciousness. In other words, they are of a level that is beyond the 3rd dimensional Inner Child concepts we have been taught. In fact, you can say that what we have been taught about the Inner Child in school and through the wise assistance of therapists is only a small portion of the knowledge regarding the Inner Child. Let’s begin with an explanation of being heart-connected to Earth. What does that mean? Simply, it means being happy, being grateful that you are here on Earth. It means that you love being here and there is no place you’d rather be. This is your home! Now this is a real challenge for starseeds because they know intuitively that Earth is not their home. And the big unconscious fear they share is that if they do get attached to being here, they will not be able to go home when their mission is done. In other words, they will be trapped here on this planet, far from their loved ones and their home world. This is a fate worse than death for starseeds. I know because I am one of them.
But not all who have this issue are starseeds. For those for whom Earth is home, the issue of heart connection stems from not being willing to accept Earth and all that is happening to her as being of
value or being okay. They are so in judgment of the pollution, the inhumanity of man, the decline of moral values, etc. that they refuse to embrace the planet. In other words, their
judgment of Earth’s present state makes them unwilling to totally embrace her. An analogy would be one’s unwillingness to embrace and commit to a lover 100% because he/she has had a
terrible injury that paralyzed or horribly disfigured part of his/her body. We let what we see deter us from opening our hearts completely to commit and love this person.
There is also a third scenario here and that is people who may or may not have an issue with being on Earth but prefer to spend the majority of their time in the other realms. Their passion is
being “out there.” They prefer talking to angels and guides rather than people. They remain hooked into the other realms like a radio tuned to one station all day. This
was me when I began this work. My passion was being “out there” and I lost interest in being here in this dimension. I just wanted to go home. As a result, I was not
heart-connected to Earth; I was heart-connected to “out there.”
Another way we abandon our Inner Child is through meditation. I’m not talking about occasional meditation to clear the mind and achieve balance; I’m referring to those who spend what
amounts to hours a day in the other realms using this excellent technique to escape the mundane world. Regardless of why we do it, when our hearts are connected elsewhere, when we are trying to
escape, the Inner Child views our actions to mean that we are trying to escape from them. They feel unworthy, inadequate, somehow not good enough to be loved because if they were, then
Mommy/Daddy would want to be with them. Amazingly they also feel the same way about the person wasted on drugs. So much for spiritual reasons.
Your abundance is where your heart is:
For those who have acknowledged that they have done one of the above let me share with you one more little tidbit of higher dimensional wisdom that was given to me by my guide, Devin, one of the 9D
Nibiruans. It was the clincher for convincing me to get heart connected to Earth. I had sought his advice about an abundance issue I was having at the time when he said, “Jelaila,
the universe, the great provider of all things, is like the US Postal Service only more efficient. It will only deliver your mail/abundance to your mailbox. Your mailbox is where your heart is,
and your heart is where you passion is. If your heart is in another dimension or realm that is where the universe will deliver your abundance. You see, your manifesting techniques are working
but your abundance is not being delivered to your mailbox on Earth. This means that that new house, new car, and that million-dollar lottery check has been delivered to your mailbox in the
dimension where you heart is located. So if you want your abundance to be delivered to the realm in which you currently reside, place your mailbox and your heart there.”
The Inner Child, seeing him/herself as our physical body is made of the dust of Earth. He/she believes that he/she is part of Earth. So when you and I resist being connected to Earth, our
Inner Children believe that we are resisting being with him/her. They interpret our actions as abandonment. When this occurs the Inner Child will take steps to prevent us from leaving
him/her, just like a physical child afraid of a parent leaving will block the door or throw a fit to keep the parent with him/her. We experience this blocking in several ways:
- Our bodies develop illnesses or pain preventing us from having the health to energetically and physically sustain a higher level of abundance.
- We don’t recognize financial opportunities because our Inner Child blinds us to them as a way to keep us from focusing on the things that abundance creates.
- Our efforts to manifest come to naught because our Inner Child has placed a wall around us blocking the money from getting to us.
The Inner Child makes no differentiation between money, meditation, or people. To the Inner child any thing or person that takes energy from them and our focus off
them is a threat to their survival. Once we understand this very basic multidimensional concept we can take steps to prevent our Inner Child from having to resort to these measures. Below
is general information about the Inner Child. The solutions to blocked abundance are found in these principles. It is my great hope that you will find your solution and once applied, begin
to experience the financial abundance along with the joy of abundant self-love you desire.
Five things your Inner Child wants you to know:
I am real! I do exist and I want a relationship with you.
For many years we have heard of the Inner Child and some of us have spent time working through issues in order to heal the wounds of our past. Once completed we
walk away feeling somewhat better yet still unable to feel that profound sense of self love, that feeling that is there every day like we thought we would. Sadly we realize there must be more
healing to do, more work to be done and so we continue our search. I was one of those people who walked away from therapy somewhat better but still aching from an emptiness that I could not
fill. My guides finally gave me the answer to filling that emptiness; it was a continuous, daily relationship with her. They told me, “You are your Inner Child’s parent and
therefore you need to parent her just as you would a flesh and blood child. So, spend at least 5 minutes a day talking to your Inner Child. Just 5 minutes a day will bring you the self
love you have always desired.” Five minutes a day will fill your Inner Child’s need for connection. The Inner Child doesn’t care if you focus on other things or people as
long as he/she is emotionally satisfied.
I am your physical body.
Now this was a real eye-opener. I had no idea that my Inner Child (I call her Jessie) believed she is my physical body...another tidbit of multidimensional
knowledge dropped in my lap compliments of my guides. Knowing this put me light years ahead in my emotional healing because I now understood the connection between my Inner Child and my physical
aches and pains. Louise Hayes’ book, Heal your Body, now made more sense than ever. When I took the probable cause interpretations she had developed for physical symptoms and
applied them to my Inner Child, I discovered the Inner Child Language. In other words, our Inner Child speaks to us through the language of physical and emotional sensations. Having this
tool enabled me to finally understand what my Inner Child was trying to convey. Now how does this relate to an abundance block? If you are simultaneously being blocked financially and
experiencing physical disease or pain, look up the disease or location of the pain in Louise’s book, take the probable cause and read it as your Inner Child speaking to you.
Example: Knee problems - Louise says it means stubborn ego, inability to bend, fear and inflexibility. Using Inner Child language, we see that the Inner Child saying, “I am in fear
and choose to be inflexible and unbending in my resistance to the change you want to make. And, I won’t feel safe changing directions and will continue to resist until you make it safe
for me to do so.”
I am your partner so please discuss changes with me before you make them and make it safe!
Since your Inner Child sees him/herself as your physical body and therefore as a partner in this incarnation, he/she deserves to be consulted before any big changes are
undertaken. I had not understood this until my guides pointed it out one day when I called upon them in great frustration to help me see why my attempts to move forward were being thwarted at
every turn. I realized that not only had I not consulted her and asked her how she felt about making the changes I had in mind, I had not made it safe to do so by creating agreements about how
we would handle the effects of the change.
One of the things we forget when moving along life’s path whether we are spiritual or not is that even though we may be ready to make a change in our life, our
Inner Child may not be. If he/she is not ready it is because we have not discussed it with him/her and/or done anything, such as making agreements to take care of the emotional or physical pain
that may come as a result of the change. For example, if we decide to release old anger and do a Liver Cleanse to release the stones in our liver/gallbladder, without talking to our Inner Child and
making agreements about how we will deal with that anger once it surfaces, he/she will block the release of the stones. I have had numerous clients experience this very thing. Once they go back
and make the agreements, the next cleanse is quite successful. So what I am saying in regards to abundance and the Inner Child is to be sure that you make agreements with your Inner Child about
how you will take care of her and you through and after the change that is required.
It’s my job to protect you and keep you happy.
The Inner child believes that his/her purpose for existing is to keep you safe and happy. That means safe from emotional/physical pain and happy at all
times. We all have a limit of emotional/physical pain that we are willing to consciously feel. We unconsciously teach that limit to our Inner Child. As a result, he/she knows that
anything beyond that limit must be stuffed so that we don’t feel it. When things are going well that is easy to do but when fear enters into the picture things take a different
turn. When you are threatened in any way either physically, emotionally or mentally, the Inner Child goes into Superman mode in order to protect you. At times this means that he/she will
use fear as a tool to keep you safe. At those times he/she flips into his/her dark side and uses the abilities attributed to the lower or male chakras to protect. This “Dark”
side is synonymous with the Ego. When I learned this from my guides, it was as if they dropped a bomb on me. I would never have connected my sweet Inner Child with my Ego.
Protection in Inner Child language can take many forms, a gut feeling of “watch out” or “something doesn’t feel right” to blinding you to
an opportunity, or at the extreme, developing a fatal physical, emotional or mental illness. In between are addictions (depression, the great emotional medicator, drugs, alcohol, work, food
etc)…tools the Ego/Inner Child uses to keep you preoccupied so that you won’t do the thing that will cause, in her/his mind, your demise.
What you think about yourself, you think about me.
Our Inner Child hears every thought, feeling and word we speak about ourselves. He/she, being a child is narcissistic by nature just like any child and therefore
believes that thought, feeling or spoken word is about him/her. That’s why the key to changing one’s self image lies with the Inner Child. Talking to this Inner Child using
positive self-talk backed up by agreements and follow through will change self-hatred, low self-esteem and self- worth into self-love. If your Inner Child feels that an opportunity for
financial abundance will in anyway cause him/her to be blamed, he/she will block it. For example, if your mission is to become a teacher but you are an enabler (we call it being a
caretaker—someone who rescues others), your Inner Child will block any efforts you make to set up workshops or get a job working for someone else. Why? Because she/he knows that you
disproportionately get your love and acceptance from giving too much energy to others in an attempt to fulfill their needs and don’t leave enough in reserve for yourself nor do you truly give yourself (Inner Child) love and acceptance. Also, since you fear being rejected if you don’t have all the answers or fail to meet someone’s needs, the Inner Child knows that that fear will result in you feeling guilty. When you feel guilty the Inner Child experiences that guilt as you blaming him/her. The Inner Child experiences blame as rejection and abandonment.
As we now see, there are several things we do that we may not have been consciously aware would cause our Inner Child to block our abundance. There are more and to
determine which ones are applicable to you, I suggest reading the articles provided below under “Additional Reading.” Our Inner Child though appearing complex is actually quite
simple. He/she only wants to be loved and to feel safe within that love and the love he/she is most interested in is that of you, his/her parent. To this end he/she will move heaven and
earth to obtain and maintain it.
In closing, if you want to experience great abundance, get heart connected to Earth, love being here because when you love Earth you love your Inner Child who believes
he/she is made of the Earth and exists in this dimension. Not only will you begin to experience financial abundance, you will net the added bonus of the greatest love you have ever known.
The Nibiruan Council
Additional Reading - Articles:
Are the Inner Child and Ego the Same?
Make your Inner Child your Partner
Give your Inner Child a Say
9D Perspective on Money and Ascension
New Age Money Pitfalls
Facing the Fear of Success
Additional Reading – Booklets:
The Soul/Ego/Self Partnership, the 3rd Multidimensional Key of Compassion by Jelaila Starr
Open Door, the 4th Multidimensional Key of Compassion
by Jelaila Starr
The Agreements Key, the 7th Multidimensional Key of Compassion
by Jelaila Starr
Jelaila Starr, author of We are the Nibiruans, The Mission Remembered and the highly acclaimed Keys of Compassion series, is an
internationally known channel, teacher, and counselor. Through her lectures, workshops, and articles, Jelaila's message of compassion has touched the hearts of people around. Jelaila’s work
inspires hope and understanding while providing solutions to some of today’s most pressing challenges.
As a psychic/intuitive counselor, Jelaila works with individuals to assist them with emotional clearing, healing relationships, and DNA Recoding.
Jelaila's unique approach enables her clients to clearly discover who they are, what they came to do, and how to achieve it.