There was no weekly message this past week because I was involved in helping a family member. My brother Tom (not his real name) who suffers from Major Depressive Disorder (MDD) had come very close to ending his life—for the 3rd time. Released from the hospital a few days before Thanksgiving, he had done fairly well until this past Saturday.
Terrified, confused and suffering from sleep deprivation he called me on Saturday morning. Minutes into our phone call it became clear to me that Tom could not stay alone in his apartment so I made arrangements for him to come and stay with me for a few days.
Hanging up the phone I wondered how I was going to do the job of stabilizing him. After all, I was only one person; not a full staff of trained nurses and psychologists like he had at the hospital. I understood that the way out was to change perspective. In other words, instead of seeing his life through the lens of 3D fundamental religious beliefs, he would see them through a higher dimensional perspective.
That was no easy task because Tom was pretty black/white in his thinking. How was I going to be able to speak in such a way that he would remain open minded, not shutting down because I inadvertently trounced on a firmly held religious belief. I have to tell you I was scared, especially when Tom announced that I was his only hope, and that if this didn’t work he would end his life.
I knew we have to develop a plan which included a foundation of new beliefs that would not only enable Tom to see his past choices differently, but also provide him with a means to pull himself out of depression without me.
I knew my guides and my brother’s guides were with us because there were several times over the next 3 days when I was at a loss for how to reach my brother the answer suddenly appeared. Analogies based on biblical stories that I could use to explain a higher dimensional belief simply appeared in my head. Here’s an example: Tom had a deeply ingrained belief in sin and forgiveness. From the higher perspective there is no sin, because we are all playing roles to help each other grow, so there is no reason for forgiveness. Now that is a belief that Tom is not ready for; it’s too far up the ladder so to speak. So I worked with him on stepping 1 step beyond having to earn forgiveness which is the real problem he was facing. In order to accomplish this I had to help him embrace the higher dimensional concept of everything has a value, along with explaining in logical terms why God would find value in his past actions and offer forgiveness.
I used the concept of Satan. Using the biblical scriptures, I asked Tom the following questions. “If God loves all of his creation as he says then he loves Satan, doesn’t he? Isn’t Satan one of God’s creations? And after Satan, a former angel of light, fell from grace, didn’t God allow him to live? If he didn’t love him he would have destroyed him, wouldn’t he?” This made sense to Tom.
Going to the next step I said, “So even after Satan’s big, huge mistake, God not only let him live, he found another role for him to play, didn’t he?” Again, Tom answered affirmatively. Finally, bring back around to Tom I said, “So if God could do that for Satan, whose transgressions were far worse, why would he not do it for you?” Sitting for a moment to let the logic sink him, Tom replied, “There’s no reason that God wouldn’t. Bingo!
The relief of Tom’s face almost palpable. He now realized that there was a value in his past choices. And not only was he worthy, by making bad choices he had given God another opportunity to strengthen Tom’s faith by forgiving him.
Now Tom had the cornerstone for his new foundation. He realized that he was worthy of love no matter what. This equates to the spiritual belief that we all have value…we don’t have to earn it through our actions. Using the terminology that I had learned growing up in our family’s chosen religion I was able to explain the new beliefs in a way that Tom would accept.
In closing, I realized the value of my fundamentally religious training: I could speak the lingo that awakening people (Yes, my brother was awakening which is why he was going through this crisis) need to hear to bridge the gap between 3D religion and higher dimensional spirituality. I also realized that I needed to share that knowledge because there are many of us who will need to help awakening family and friends. Our religious training had a purpose, and thus, a value.
I’m happy to say that my brother left feeling much better about his future. He realized that he not only was loved beyond measure, his future was brighter than he ever imagined.